Its not just the surname that gets changed the girl also gets changed. Isn't true? Yah it is. Most of the girls say its wrong. Though its hard to believe, its the truth that needs to be digested. The truth is the girls don't change but the CIRCUMSTANCES change them and they act according to the situations.
The priorities get reset, importance and mindset changes. Something which was very important before may be not so now. People of high importance before marriage could be of very less important now. My point here is not to blame females. It should be understood that with lot of pain and struggle they make the changes to the things they loved for almost 20+ years of life. Why cant they be the same? Who needs to be blamed for these changes?
Actually i want to blog more but cudn't put them on paper as my thoughts are not yet subtle. Sure will be doing dat soon.
Ooops!! wat am i writing about?? Why am i writing all this?? Is it only due to the changes i have been noticing....nope may be subconscious mind gives me the feel dat i am very emotional and all these 20+ years experiences may be also a reason for me to put in some time into writing this.
The first comment i received on this post is absolutely valid. May be i should have re-said that the groom is the main actor in this complete picture..if i'm not wrong. The bride undergoes lot of changes than the groom. For the groom its all the same except a new partner into his life and talking sarcastically a new burden over him which i say is absolutely worthfull to take upon.
The bride should be ready to accept the changes in her life what ever and how many ever they are and how ever painful they are. Its the grooms responsiblity to associate her to the family smoothly and make her comfortable. Hmmm....it goes on....
4 comments:
hey thrinath ...
nice topic thr.
I might add that marriage is such a huge milestone in ones life that it affects both the persons as well as the families. What follows is the bride adjusting with grooms family and so too for the groom too.
But, in most cases the changes and the adjustments are expected from the gal. Notice how the onus is on the girl ... its upto her to make everyone comfortable.
n ofcourse change is always a bit unsettling. :D
hey S(i donno ur name though)!! ur comments are absolutely valid and obvious...i too agree dat the bride has to undergo phenomenal changes than the groom....she needs time and space to settle down and certainly the groom plays an important part here to accomodate her the required time and space.
Hey
Its just a perception that girl needs to adjust more and am saying this being a girl. Changes happen with everyone all the time and its just when people get married that everyone notices. :)
hahahhhahaha...3nath thats true...i already experience that in my life....
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