When a GIRL gets married..

Its not just the surname that gets changed the girl also gets changed. Isn't true? Yah it is. Most of the girls say its wrong. Though its hard to believe, its the truth that needs to be digested. The truth is the girls don't change but the CIRCUMSTANCES change them and they act according to the situations.

The priorities get reset, importance and mindset changes. Something which was very important before may be not so now. People of high importance before marriage could be of very less important now. My point here is not to blame females. It should be understood that with lot of pain and struggle they make the changes to the things they loved for almost 20+ years of life. Why cant they be the same? Who needs to be blamed for these changes?

Actually i want to blog more but cudn't put them on paper as my thoughts are not yet subtle. Sure will be doing dat soon.

Ooops!! wat am i writing about?? Why am i writing all this?? Is it only due to the changes i have been noticing....nope may be subconscious mind gives me the feel dat i am very emotional and all these 20+ years experiences may be also a reason for me to put in some time into writing this.

The first comment i received on this post is absolutely valid. May be i should have re-said that the groom is the main actor in this complete picture..if i'm not wrong. The bride undergoes lot of changes than the groom. For the groom its all the same except a new partner into his life and talking sarcastically a new burden over him which i say is absolutely worthfull to take upon.

The bride should be ready to accept the changes in her life what ever and how many ever they are and how ever painful they are. Its the grooms responsiblity to associate her to the family smoothly and make her comfortable. Hmmm....it goes on....

Why do HUMANS cry?

CRYing is the general human biological response for sadness, distress or physical pain. Tears can be advatageous too.

A bit of googling helped me classifying the tears to basal, reflex and emotional(Now dont ask me the differentiation). It can be observed that the frequency of crying varies from person to person. This is just due to the difference in the resistance/persistence of the persons. I donno if this can be improved personally. physcial pain resistance can be improved easily with proper fitness/diet control. But the emotional tears can be controlled only by personal excercise of the individual.

So from now on, when you cry dont feel embarassed. Its just a physocological response to an incident/situation. CRY out leaning on your loved ones and the heart will be weighed down.

Words are sharper than SWORD

I always insist on "Think before you deliver your words". Because sometimes words can prove fatal with important relation ships. And especially when the thoughts are not clear and are just out of some assumptions this can be more harmful.

Understanding your loved ones is easy. But the phobia of FEAR OF LOSING THE LOVED ONES(Can someone tell me the exact technical term?) will cause some problem when the person u love behaves differently due to their own circumstances. The people of such phobia needs to be more careful with their deeds/speech/behavious when such thought of losing occurs. Actually the phobia itself causes to lose our loved ones(due to misunderstanding). This phobia can only be cured with personal experience.

Any sort of relational issues can be fixed only with franck and genuine discussions. Talk to the other person open heartedly and then any issue can be fixed. Every problem in this world has a solution.